Communication

 Communication is a huge chapter. Whether in professional or personal life, effective communication plays a powerful role. That’s why communication training and lessons are taught in universities and workplaces. It’s a way of expressing things,  the same message can be said in different ways and can be perceived from different angles.

Let’s not talk about professional communication for a moment. Here, I want to talk about the communication between your brain, heart, and mouth. Have you ever noticed that there’s often a difference in communication between them? When there’s no resonance or alignment between these three, you may find yourself feeling uncomfortable or uneasy that something feels imbalanced.

It’s important to acknowledge this inner language. For example, when someone says something to you , maybe something small may be  your mouth might agree, but your heart and brain may not. As a result, you might feel disturbed the entire day, asking yourself: “Why did I say that? Why didn’t I just say I don’t like it?”

Even in simple situations  , someone says, “I like mango juice, let’s order that,” and you actually prefer litchi juice. But because they’ve already decided, you don’t think much and agree to mango. Later, you keep thinking about that missed litchi juice all day.

This is why learning to communicate with yourself is so important .  it’s an art. It’s not about hurting others or being narcissistic.

Sometimes, the conflict between your heart, brain, and mouth is big. Other times, it’s just something small. For example, when you live abroad, you might love the infrastructure, lifestyle, and luxury but deep down, you miss some parts of your home country. When you meet friends, you don’t always have to glorify living abroad. You can also acknowledge the missing and lonely parts. This kind of honesty with yourself helps reduce inner conflict and chaos.

If you don’t like something or you’re disappointed, you need to communicate it .gently and thoughtfully. There are ways to express disagreement respectfully. Direct communication isn’t always the best way; learning how to communicate matters just as much as what you communicate.

Never lie to yourself. Miscommunication between your heart, brain, and mouth is also a kind of lie. If you like something, say it. If you don’t, find the right words and express it. If you feel uncertain, it’s okay to say that too.

This, too, is a part of communication . learning to communicate with yourself. Within you and yourself. It’s truly an art.